THE PSYCHOLOGY OF WOMAN

By Estelle Roberts

Through the Trance Mediumship of

Arthur Hakalani Pacheco

Given over the radio in Honolulu

on December 2, 2000

There is no greater joy therein as serving the Beloved. Think on it my dear, dear friends. I tell you it has been the most solid truth that I have found to date since entering into these magnificent realms of spirit life. I tell you that when one grows and accelerates one seeks constantly to please their Beloved. The question of course arises, Who is the Beloved? And I tell you the truly Beloved is the One who most loves you. Yes! Generally you will find the Beloved ministering unto you, loving you completely.

 

Oh my dear friends, it is with great, great joy that I present myself here this day working as best as we can, for I tell you that a squeaky instrument is better than none at all, (Referring to Arthur as her instrument) and that much I hold to be true.

 

My dear friends, the questions that arise this day are, "How is it that woman, mans, should we say, inner self, can be subject to so much that is tormenting her soul? Why should it be? If she, the reflection of your Sweet Celestial Mother, HerselfÖ.I speak of every womanÖ.if she is what she is, the reflection of sweetness, the reminder of love, how is it and why is it that she should be so tortured and beaten down?"  It must end my dears. It shall end and I am here to help in that ending, and hopefully to bring about the beginning of something far more lovely than what we have been experiencing.

 

It comes then to us all, that we must understand this creature called woman and understand her we shall. For we must, you see? We are at that point where there will be no further growth, not really, not spiritually, of any great advantage or impact if we do not understand woman. We canít sweep her under the carpet any longer.

 

We, all of us, men and women of course, must understand the woman within us all. And for those men who say, ďOh, but Iím a man, how can I understand the woman within?Ē Well, that then becomes your quandary, that becomes your quest dear brother. If you canít see that she is there within, well, I should think it is time to turn that about, for I tell you that it shall be salvation unto each soul through the window called woman. And that goes, of course, for our beloved brothers, as well. So let us roll our sleeves up and begin, shall we?

 

I am here as a representative of Beings far, far greater and more lovely than myself, and as such am privileged to ask the questions They are asking. Not that They donít know the answers, believe me. But rather that They must, shall we say, catalyze the process of asking these things worldwide. The whole world must ask these questions and the whole world must have the answers. And so we begin.

 

Why is it that woman seems to put man at the center of her universe so very often? In so asking I imply no criticism, none. How could I? It would be like, what do they say in your world, shooting myself in the foot. Iíll not do it. But I would like to know why so very many ladies seem to think that the sun rises and sets upon her man, and her whole life is all about him? Again dear ones, I say not that this is wrong, nor right. I but pose the question. It begs an answer.

 

Why is it that woman is so willing to suffer at the hands of an insensitive man or an insensitive family for far too long? What is it in her psychology that makes her so willing to endure? Is this a good thing? Obviously itís got a purpose. The questions of course are, "What is that purpose? And, where does it begin? And, where does it end? And, wherein lies the Divine Purpose behind that?" We must have these answers dear ones.

Why is it that woman is so easily swayed by her manís, shall we say, intimidation tactics? As opposed to backing up a bit and saying, ďWait, what you are doing to me is quite unchaste. And furthermore, it would not seem to come from one that loves me.Ē Why is it she so rarely does this thing? And on the contrary is cowed, bowing her head and doing what the tyrant wants her to do. Change all of it must, and I say that the change must begin now.

My dear friends, we must all understand the psychology, the feminine psychology else we cannot move one step further on the path of enlightenment. You who are women in this incarnation most assuredly must come to know the answers to these questions else, well, Iím afraid a whole life shall be lived in shadow.

 

Sweethearts, oh, and I do love that word Kuuipo by the way, that lovely Hawaiian word sweetheart, each one of you must come to see the importance, the utter importance of understanding the feminine psychology, for in seeing this we shall see the condition of all humanity. Canít you see it?

 

In other words, all of humanity will rise no further, nor can it, from that level where woman rises. And so you see in some ways she becomes the weak link in the chain. But why should she be, and why is she? And who has made her like that? And how can we undo it so that she becomes the strong link instead?

 

Come to know, dear ones, that that thing called sex, the wonder that so many hold in such high regard, is also the very thing that is as a binding force to so many. Why should it be? May we analyze it? At the risk of sounding a bit oh, flippant, I might add that in my time I knew what good sex was and Iíll tell you as I know it. Good sex, my dears, is sex without guilt of any kind. Oh you want good sex you say, then I say seek out the guiltless variety and you shall have it in spades. Yes my dears. And so that sex that, shall we say, seems good, you know the type that seems to overwhelm you, ďWhat a man,Ē they say, ďwhat a stud,Ē I believe is the word. Well, if in that union she is harmed in any way, or he is for that matter, or anyone is, it canít be good sex, not really.

 

Touchy subject, I understand. Touchy indeed! But I tell you, my dears, oh approximately 82% I should estimate of most of you who are listening, and those even who shall hear this message later, have programmed the sexual experience into your lives that you might learn from it, that you might know its wonders, that you might finally come to see how lovely it can really be. And there it is, my dears. You want good sex then you must seek out that bed that holds no guilt and no shame. And then as I say, my dears, you shall have it and enjoy it to the full.  I did.

 

Some of you might know that I chose to incarnate in the Taurus period of Astrological influence. And  well, I suppose itís one of the most sensual signs of all. Some are saying, ďIs this Estelle going off in an odd direction?Ē Not at all my dears. I dare say it is most critical and central to the issue at hand, for I tell you that it is a point of record and observation from one point of view, that it is this very thing that seems to ensnare and bond so many women to men who donít seem to be worthy of their graces.

 

Why should she accommodate this one? And we find again and again that when sheís, shall we say, a bit mesmerized by the sex she says, ďOh, other things donít go well here, but oh my the sex.Ē I tell you, my dears, here again sheís but delving into yet another blind spot. First she thinks itís good sex, but of course she is being damaged in the process. How can it be then by my definition? And if you look deeply enough one day it shall become your definition as well, I dare say.

 

And of course, we find that sheís but making associations. Thatís it. You see, association is the most dangerous thing. I shall explain. She is associating certain sensations, certain emotional states, and not to mention the physical side of it all, that she is experiencing with certain inner processes within her psyche, within herself, that are quite cosmic of course, having to do with the Kundalini energy and her own enlightenment. In other words, for at least 70% of you, you must have some sexual experiences to, shall we say, round out your characters. It isnít true for all you understand. Iím not pontificating here.

 

But again to continue, and so, you see, this man who comes and perhaps is a bit agile, perhaps a bit skilled, some might say, in some form of the love making process, perhaps he is a sex technician, you know, we see some of these about, but that's where it ends. He gives no heart, he gives no love, he gives no soul, not really. On the contrary, he is giving little and taking all. He is a taker, my dears. And yet, why is it she will swoon afterwards and do whatever he wills with dreamy eyes? ďOh, I so love him,Ē she says.

 

I tell you, she is associating the experience itself, and he the partner, and sees them as the generator of certain inner "cosmic" states that are doing her good. It is mis-association. But itís not being done properly, which is why I return to my original point that good sex, we think, is guilt free. Guilt free, in the sense, that no one is being harmed, and certainly not her. So let this be a bit of a criteria for you, dears. Seek guilt free sex and you shall have the best of all. Give it a bit of thought. Youíll see that I am right.

 

To continue, each and every one of us must understand the feminine psychology more profoundly as to why she is what she is in order to gain knowledge, contact and access to the Divine Mother, which is the rising force on this planet. In other words, if youíre going to go where the planet is going, well, youíve got to follow the leader of the parade, donít you? And I tell you, She is a She!.

Oh, my dear brothers, take no offense at this. You are not suddenly reduced to second-class citizens, as some of you have done to women. Instead you are invited to join the parade and to walk right up front, proud, that as a man youíve got all the love of your woman. You can equal it, and you can give it back to her. Now thatís a man for you. As to bravado, as to the so-called machismo, as to sexual prowess, these things, well, one finds in the animal kingdom, really.

What makes a man? I say a soul that is reminiscent of the Great Light of the Father, and He is the Greatest Giver of All. So dear, dear brothers give, give, give, give your love not only your sex and youíll find yourselves as the leaders of men, and of women. But again there will be no guilt involved, now will there? It will be done righteously.

Why is it that women insist upon trying to outdo one another? What is this one-up-manship thatís been somehow sewn into the very fabric of her clothing? I detest it. Sweet sisters, it will take your effort, daily, to correct all of this. Oh, some say in protest, but we were not the ones who did it, why should we have to be the ones that correct  it? I should not be so quick to disavow your responsibilities. Youíve taken this on, havenít you? Thereís a reason for it.

Dear ones, come to know this as well, that women must come to see other women as sacred creatures, sweet in the extreme and collectively the Savioress of the human race. This is my holding, this is my truth and certainly not mine alone, but the truth of Those that send me.  Dear women, rise up my dears, refuse to see another woman as an enemy and you shall be aiding ever so much in this wondrous, wondrous campaign of love. We must correct it.

(It is here that Estelle notices many grand and gracious women, who now reside in the spirit world, that have gathered to hear her message, including our own female relatives. As she mentions, this discussion is going to continue between these women in spirit even after she finishes her earthly message. This topic must be discussed and fully understood, for it is women who will restore peace, harmony and balance to this earth. That is woman's role, for she is caries the aspect of God called the conscience.)

I am honored, as I notice what had not occurred, that is to say I see the ranks of beautiful, beautiful women, many of them Hawaiian women who have graciously honored me with their lovely, lovely presence. They are here with us all, as we are together. The lovely Mother Teresa is here and joins us; and our sweet little Princess Diana is also here. The elegant Kawena Pukui graces us, as does her sweet and dear friend Iolani Luahine. Weíve got this lovely contingent of lovely Hawaiian souls, they are here, Edith Kanakaole as well. Nana Veary adds to the light, as does the luminous Emma DeFries. The lovely Maiki Aiu Lake, Pele Suganuma and many join us, one after the other. Amongst these my dears, youíre own sweet relatives, your moms, your grand moms, there be so very many. The list could go on and on and on. They all grace us with their presence.

She who was once Norma Jean, Marilyn Monroe, smiles demurely, there be so many here from all walks of life, so very many. Oh I note your own lovely Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy. Oh look, two of those that raised their voices in song, interestingly enough, sitting next to each other, the great Maria Callas holding hands with Janis Joplin of all people. Now thatís a pair for you.

All these lovely ladies, and Iíve but mentioned a fraction sit together. We are all as one family, and there be more and more as they file in, for though earth time is not available to cover this entire topic adequately, I tell you, my dears, it shall go on. We shall sit here and expand our knowledge of each other, for you see this is why they are all here, each one telepathically contributing her light, her knowledge, her experience. Each one has taken the time and trouble to investigate why she has done what she has done. You see? And so together we, collectively, are solving these problems. (From the other side, from spirit)

Why is it that women can fall in love with yet another woman irregardless of the sexual aspect of the relationship, and not usually be mistreated the way she is, all too often, when she co-habitates with her man? It canít be dear ones. Could it be that woman must interact with each other a bit more? I think so. Let us solve our own conundrum and quandary. Let us keep our minds on these matters.

And dear ones, for those of you who sit there rather smugly and say, ďOh those things donít apply to me really. Iím happily married. Iíve got no guilt. I enjoy sex and things are quite lovely. I tell you dear, not as long as your sister is suffering, they are not lovely at all, or your version of lovely Iím afraid is rather partial. The loveliest vision of all is when, all of us, together, understand these things.

And again you say, ďBut if Iíve figured this out, well at least to the point of living happily, what then can I do?Ē Thatís more like it sister. You can seek out the ones that donít understand it. If indeed you are that adept at joy and happiness then certainly you can teach and share your grace. But your job is not done till I cannot hear one woman crying on the planet. The Divine Mother Herself would have it so.

Oh, how I love you all, and you brothers who are listening. Please donít think for a second that we women donít love you, utterly. We seek simply to understand ourselves, and yourselves as well, that we might love you yet more beautifully with no guilt and full bliss. That there be love indeed. That there be the real appearance of that love that weíve all known, else we would not know what to seek at all.

A kiss to each one. Blessings on your heads. How very much we all love you, you have no idea. But contemplate that as well, if you will, for that indeed we leave you with and never is it removed. We extend our hands in spirit to youÖÖ.and lookÖ..all the women (those gathered in spirit) are doing it, as well. Wonít you take them?

Dear ones, take an ally, someone you know who is in spirit, a sister or one that you admire, that you respect, that you love. Take her hands now, in your minds and in your hearts, and weíve now bridged the gap. There is no death, as Iíve said a thousand times, and only love prevails. Oh how lovely is love. Understood, shared, multiplied and then we can give it to the youth  so that they never ever have to pass through the nightmare we are all ending.

God Bless you all. How I love you. How very much I do. I am your sweet reminder, if I might say so, that you are loved, so loved, so loved. Your Mother loves you dearly.

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